“Because I worry an awful lot, a lot of dads out there who just don’t
know what to do, and they don’t know where to go. And they may not have
such good – either grounding, foundations or support around them to be
able to know what to do.”
Future Men provides a range of courses
that help with different aspects of fatherhood, from enhancing
father-child relationships to teaching practical and emotional
approaches to enable men to take care of themselves, their partner and
baby.
The men described their experiences of fatherhood from
dealing with their child’s sleeping patterns to being a positive role
model when Kate asked them about the challenges of family life,
especially during lockdown.
Sarit Chaturvedi said: “Parenting is
probably the only sort of job if you can call it (a job) – it is a very,
very difficult job – that we’re not given any hands-on approach on.
“You
know, any other job you enter, you are shown the ropes. At the time
it’s completely new to you, it’s very scary actually being a parent for
the first time.”
Earlier in the year, William and Kate joked
about their experiences with home schooling their three young children,
Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis, with the duchess
saying she had found it “challenging”.
The Cambridge children during lockdown, clapping for carers
When one of the fathers
said he knew lots of men who did not know about the Future Men
fatherhood courses but were interested, Kate said it was a “shame”
similar services were not more widely available.
The duchess added: “Dads play such an important role it shouldn’t be a bad thing to reach out for help and advice.”
In
a lighter moment, Graeme Mackenzie, who towards the end of the video
chat was joined by his eight-month-old son Liam, said: “The best thing I
like about being a dad is sniffing him and getting that new baby
smell.”
Peter Sen, who also introduced his first child, son
Elliott, to the group, said: “I think being at home in lockdown has been
a blessing and a curse. A blessing that I get to see every part of his
development and that’s a real joy, and however poorly or badly he
sleeps, he always wakes up with a big smile on his face.”
When
the fathers brought out their sons William and Kate could not hide their
parental instincts and smiled. Mr Mackenzie said: “His hobbies are
drooling and he’s also quite a vocal little chap, aren’t you?”
Kate waved and said “Hi Liam,” then asked “Is this his first Zoom call?” and the duke and duchess laughed when told it was.
Mr
Sen said he had missed interacting with other families and the duchess
sympathised and replied: “It must be so hard having a newborn over
lockdown.”
When William asked the men if being a father was
valued by their communities and wider society, Darren Smith, married
with a son called Messiah, said: “I have a strong belief that,
especially for me being a younger dad, I think that I have a strong
impact on you know, the community, the society around me…
“We’re
superheroes to these kids, we’re their role models. You know, they look
at us as ‘OK, I want to be like, daddy’. My son tells me everyday
‘daddy, I want to be like you’.”